curveballs

well, life, thanks for always keeping me on my toes. 

july was an interesting month for the o's.  we started off with an excellent vacation to nova scotia.  shortly after, we found out that our good friends had ended their almost 4 year long relationship. 
it came out of nowhere, at least to us, and it was a bit of a blow for everyone. 

it feels like a string of these breakups have been happening lately.  the "i can't see the rest of my life with you" breakup.  3 of us got married, one couple became serious, and the rest have broken up with (or been left by) their long term boyfriends.  it's a make or break point in life, people deciding their careers, who they are going to spend their lives with, having kids, buying homes...

these late 20s, man, are tough times.

it did give mr. o and i a chance to reflect on how lucky we are to have each other and recognize the strength in our relationship.  

it also finally gives us an answer to the age old newlywed question, 

"does it feel any different now that you're married?"

we usually gave some cheeky "it feels the same as the day before the rings" type answer, but after this year of change and witnessing heartbreak, we realize that the biggest change is that we've formally committed to each other.  i recognize that sounds a little bizarre (weren't you committed before?), but committed in the sense that we've proven our commitment to each other by getting married.  Trusting that this person will be by my side no matter what curveballs life throws our way.  

 we won't have an "i'm not sure i see the rest of my life with you" conversation.  

we won't have an "are you the one?" conversation. 

we've chosen to see how the rest of our lives play out with each other. 

another july curveball is that my wonderful company was sold to another company.  i can't get too much into it because the sale hasn't gone through yet, but we're all a little heartbroken.  lots of change, too many questions, and more anxiety about the future than i'd ever like to feel again.

regardless of these curveballs life has thrown me and my loved ones, we will all come out on top.  i'm sure i'll embrace the career changed head on. i have faith that my dear friend who is now starting over in love will find an amazing partner like the one i found in ryan. she will look back on this difficult time and realize what she learned from it and how it made her stronger. 

thanks for the tests, life, but we've got this.